CBL Virtual Classroom: Alan Dowson: The 1:10 Ratio

Blog entry by Alan Dowson

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So, I hit up one of my boys to go to happy hour a couple weeks ago. We meet up and chill and have a couple of beers, just him and I.

Dude is 10 years older than me, but we used to work together and we’re boys. I see him as a player, I know he can get a lot of girls, because whenever I’m out with him, he always seems to be talking to girls and have them interested in him so easily. And, he’s real laid back with it to, not aggressive like I am. I don’t really know how it does so well, but I think the fact that he’s 6’3″ helps him out a lot.

But anyway, we were out and we were talking about these chicks and shit. He’s always congratulating me on the chicks I pick up or go on dates with and shit. I mean, he’s been with me to see me pick up a few chicks and he’s seen pictures on my phone of a few others, so he knows what kind of quality I pull. He’s always saying shit like “we like the same kind of girls.”

Like, I said, dude is legit. He was once engaged to a model chick. He’s banged a few strippers, etc, etc. I respect his game and his take on women. So, this time I was complaining about the chicks I’ve been fucking with and how these chicks will go so far with me but then not give up the pussy and all this other bullshit. I ask him what am I doing wrong.

He looks at me confused and says, “man, I don’t know. Honestly, you’re asking the wrong guy. For every chick I’ve banged, there’s probably like 10 I feel like I should have banged, but fucked it up somehow. I fucked 46 girls in my life, which when I think about it, that’s means I should’ve fucked 460 girls by now, but I fucked it up with most of them. I’m just a fuck up, bro. You’re asking the wrong person.”

Damn. I think about all my missed opportunities…. yeah, I’m running at about a 1:10 ratio myself.

My facebook and twitter is full of chicks I feel like I should’ve fucked. It’s a lot more of them than it is chicks I actually have fucked. I also think the problem is, I don’t think about chicks I have fucked, they never cross my mind or bother me, cuz I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. But, I still occasionally go to Spaghetti‘s facebook page (and others) and look at her pictures and wonder “what ifs” or “could’ve/would’ve/should’ve”s. I think about girls from the past that I feel like I had a chance with but didn’t get it way more than chicks that I have fucked ever cross my mind.

But, after hearing my boy say this, a dude I thought was a player, a dude I thought banged a lot of bad bitches, was a wake up call. If even the dudes that do get a lot of pussy are striking out more than they’re hitting home runs, then I guess that’s just part of stepping up to the plate.

I guess there will always be bitches I feel like I should’ve fucked, but didn’t. Gotta learn to not sweat that shit too much….