Blog entry by Alan Dowson
I was just thinking that too much of my interactions with women come from a “let me see if she’ll let me” standpoint.
Meaning when I go to hold a chicks hand while we’re walking, I’m usually thinking “let’s see if she’ll let me hold her hand…. oh shit! She did! She let me!”
The same with the first kiss…
The first ass grab…
The first bra removal….
The initial insertion…
I’m always thinking “will she let me do this?” And then I either get giddy inside or disappointed based on whether she “lets me” or not.
I can’t help but to think that this is a bad frame to be in.
I’m pretty sure, the hotter the girl or the bigger the crush I have on her, the more likely I approach from a “I’m going to do this and see if she lets me” type of frame.
When it comes to 6′s, I could give a fuck what they let me do, I run the show.
There it is. By acting out of a “will she let me?” Frame, I’m allowing her to have to much control. In fact, I’m giving her control of the interaction.
This is what I really don’t understand about kino and the way its mainly taught in game. In seems that its generally taught from this sort of mentality.
I think this is probably the biggest issue with my push/pull game when it comes to hot chicks. I’m always trying to see “what I can get away with” and when I try for something and get it I’m too busy subconsciously running a victory lap to be pushing to go with my pulling.
I feel like I’m the retarded kid who always strikes out, but then out shear luck winds up hitting his first home run and is too busy standing there in shock, awe, and euphoria to realize he still has to run the bases.
Actually, bad example. Even that kid still scores….
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